Sammie Peters, wife of talented Juju maestro Sir Shina
Peters (SSP), opened up on her love life with SSP whom she often refers as ‘Olu
mi’. Enjoy it.
“We actually met in
1981 in Lagos, we lived in the same neighborhood and it was love at first
sight. He was a very young and intelligent man but very ambitious towards his
career. One thing I love about him was his soft hand; he had a very soft palm
and a dashing smile that could arrest the most hardened soul. And we did our
white wedding in 1995”.
“I can say my husband was the first musician in his
generation to do a legal marriage at that material time; so every other person
followed. Yes,
at least I can say he belt the cat by being the first among equal to marry a
woman legally. Then
and even up till now, musicians don’t like to settle down but in Shina’s case,
I think he had a sense of gratitude for me because he saw how patience I was then.”
“Yes, you could say that it was unbelievable that we
legalized our marriage after such a long time. It was as a result of trust, we
dated for many years and I was able to understudy him. I got to know his
chemistry. But what I want to let out here is that in any marriage, one need a
good level of understanding and what I call unconditional love. If you care to
know the chemistry of your man, the truth will set you free from all emotional
impediments. No man, I tell you, that does not like adventure. If you are a
woman and you say “oh, my husband is not doing this or cannot do this and that”, you are just
deceiving yourself. Majority of men have this tendency to cheat, you get my
point? But the fact remains that, you have to just love him unconditionally,
forgive him at all times and always welcome him back home and move on with your
life, that is one strategy that has worked for me over the years”.
“That
is my philosophy about
love. I
believe in unconditional love. If you love him, you love him. I can’t say I
won’t love my husband and not tolerate his shortfalls and if that should be the
case I must also tolerate his shortcomings because I chose to marry him in the
first place. I will rather share my
husband than lose him out rightly. I am still on that point.When you say “I will
not take this, I will not take that”, you end up losing your husband.”
“Well, I will go back to love again. Why I say love is that
when you love someone, you are not looking at perfection. That is my own
definition of love. There is no perfect individual, when you love someone, you
love him unconditionally, no reason attached. I love my husband
unconditionally, so everything about him thrills me. When he is at home, when
he is working, when he is laughing; everything about him thrills me. So, I
think that is the secret of my patience, of my endurance. I am able to take
everything because I love him dearly and I don’t want to lose him”.
“SSP
is a very wonderful husband.
He never shies
away from his responsibilities. He does not leave me with everything, he does
not allow me carry the whole load at the home front, and he equally contributes
his own quota. He is just too generous, we are best of
friends. We gist about everything, we laugh, we talk. Even our children used to
ask us, what do you guys always talk about that you are always laughing.”
“I
can tell you that we have our moments of quarrels too.”
“My
theory for modern relationships…If you want to succeed in your marriage as a celebrity
or even an underdog, number one, don’t nag on a man. There is no point in
finding fault in a man or nagging about his actions every day. Something he did
yesterday, you are still nagging about it today and you won’t even forget it
tomorrow.”
“Since we married, it
is still fresh like yesterday in our mind. It is still as fresh as we met. I
cherish the memory of that event in my life”.
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