ITUNU HOTONU: AFRICA'S FIRST FEMALE ADMIRAL..."MY HUSBAND DIDNT FEEL THREATENED BY MY SUCCESS"

I feel inspired when I see older women who do it right both in their careers and marriages, I don't care what is happening in their home because No home is perfect, ( every family has its own issues) and having to know this makes me respect these women more for choosing to hold it down.

Often times society has made young career women like me to believe that success scare away men, they tell you , you cant be too rich, the men won't come, don't work too hard it will scare them away now that I know better, I do not believe in it, I am not saying men like that do not exist, off course they do but as much as we have stupid men you will agree that we have stupid women too isn't it?


But fortunately this post is not about the stupid people, or the weak men, it's about us changing our beliefs and mindset do you know that some of us ladies believe this theories so much that even when we find A wise man and he offers advice to us particularly concerning our career because of our mindset we conclude"oh you wanna slow me down" specially if the advice doesn't go down well with us.


what am saying is do not build your life around some of the negative advice / report you have been told in the past it's not like it's not true but it happened to them doesn't mean it will happen to you, you are what you think, and what you believe is what you attract in this new year begin to see things the way you want it not what you think usually happen, I have been opportune to learn from women who are 20/30 years in marriage and very successful in their career, trust me they are many, I look at them and say if they can do it I can too, this people have husbands who support them and let them the freedom to express themselves and fulfill destiny. An elderly woman said sth,, she said just make sure when you are wanting to make a choice of a life partner do not choose a STUPID man".


Yes, do not choose a stupid man our mistakes are mostly caused by our choices, so we need to slow down and not make a life time choice in a hurry, so I was told by an older woman. yes we should learn from other people's mistakes but not believe that all men are like that, men have a few characteristics which is similar with other men but so do women.


so if you go into a relationship or marriage with a mindset of what happened to your sister, Neighbour or friend then that is a huge problem because what you have in mind wouldn't let you see the true potential of what God has blessed you with, I honestly do not know who this message is for but I am just begging us to be a little flexible, don't be to hard , don't play too independent, it is good to be independent I am not asking you to go depend on a man for a living, all I am saying is don't let some certain happenings, change your mindset, change your belief and unknowingly you begin to spoil and change things for bad for yourself because somewhere someone told you "all men are the same" .


always remember that the people getting it right didn't mould their husband , neither did they specially order the man from JUMIA. So take it easy as we go into the New year don't be FOOLISH! Yea, stupidity is not an excuse and lastly let your couple goals be real life couples holding it down for 10, 15 , 20 to 30 years or more not the couples on social media doing it for the gram.


Sweedy you can't get Real life blessings if you keep pursuing Fake goals.


Get mentored by Real people , and when you finally get the right one pls don't compare him to anyone not even your mentors remember we are wired differently. You are to have a mentor to learn and not copy, even if u must copy not photocopy your journey is different. So career women can find love too#you don't need to trade marriage , love happiness for career#Not all men are the same #Not all women are the same # free your mind and find your match 

(PHOTOS) PROMISING NIGERIAN SHOT DEAD BY POLICE FEW DAYS TO HIS WEDDING

 A killer-cop,one police inspector identified as Mike Edem, allegedly shot  Friday Eto Nduka, an Indonesia-based guy from Oguta Local Government Area of Imo State, who returned to Nigeria this Christmas for his wedding in front of his fiancee and brother at a gas station following an argument. Friday Nduka was supposed to wed on December 27th, being  today. He was killed on December 22.

Confirming the incident, spokesman for the state police command, Andrew Enwerem said that the killer cop is on the run. Quite sad!

DRUG RUINED GEORGE MICHAEL'S CAREER~~ CLOSE FRIEND SAYS

A close friend to George Michael,  has claimed a drug habit ruined the late singer's career. He told the Sun:

Gary Farrow said ‘I believe easy access to drugs was the cause of his problems. I thought George was too bright to get involved with illegal substances. But once this disease gets hold of you it’s hard to fight it.’

Another friend revealed that just weeks before he died, the singer would throw wild all night parties at his £8million mansion. They said: '
George loved having friends over and was often still going strong well into the following morning. This continued right up until his death.'

Another source, claiming to be close to Michael said that he had suffered an overdose. He said:
'He's been rushed to A&E on several occasions. He used heroin. I think it’s amazing he’s lasted as long as he has.'

George Michael ,53,who was found dead by his  boyfriend, Fadi Fawaz,  in his country home in England on Christmas day wrote:
"ITs a xmas i will never forget finding your partner dead peacefully in bed first thing in the morning.. I will never stop missing you xx."
Fawaz told The Daily Telegraph of London that he and Michael had planned to spend Christmas Day together. He said:
“We were supposed to be going for Christmas lunch. I went round there to wake him up and he was just gone, lying peacefully in bed. We don’t know what happened yet,” he told The Telegraph. “Everything had been very complicated recently, but George was looking forward to Christmas, and so was I. “Now everything is ruined. I want people to remember him the way he was, he was a beautiful person.”

(PHOTOS) MAD MAN CAUGHT WITH USED PADS AND PAMPERS SAYS HE SELLS THEM TO RITUALISTS FOR MONEY~~~

 According to a report shared by a Facebook user, a man disguised as mad was caught along Lagos Ibadan express way few days ago searching the trash cans, incinerators and wastes disposed along the road.

Fast-forward ......When his bag was searched by curious onlookers, different kinds of used pampers and pads were found. Upon interrogation, he confessed that he sells them to ritualists in exchange for money and has been doing this for many years.

MAN ARRESTED FOR KIDNAPPED HIMSELF AND ASKED FOR RANSOM

Justice Ifeanyi,21, pictured above, have been arested by police for planning his own kidnap and asking his uncle for N4 million ransom to secure his release.

Ifeanyi who was paraded at the state police command in Asaba yesterday, said he intended to use the money he would have extorted from his Uncle to complete his own father's house in Rivers state.

He said he was apprehended while running away from his other accomplices who had started threatening him after his Uncle refused to pay the ransom.

“I left Rivers for Delta state to plan my kidnap so that I can collect money from my uncle to complete my father’s house in the village. The gang began to threaten me when my uncle refused to pay the ransom so I had to run away”he said

PRESIDENT MUHAMMAD BUHARI'S CHRISTMAS MESSAGE TO NIGERIANS

Dear Compatriots,

I heartily rejoice with all Nigerians, particularly our Christian brothers and sisters, on this year's celebration of the birth of Jesus Christ.
As we celebrate this year’s Christmas, I believe that it is very appropriate for us to reflect on the love of God aptly espoused in the teachings and lifestyle of Jesus Christ.
During his earthly sojourn, Jesus Christ repeatedly reminded his disciples and followers of peace that comes in the midst of trials and tribulations on earth.
There is no better time than now in our nation’s history to pray for divine guidance to get over our current challenges.

We can have peace in Nigeria if we all learn to tolerate and appreciate one another, respect constituted authority; and be our brothers’ keepers in word and deed.
During this period, we should remember to offer special prayers to God for all our heroic citizens who paid the supreme price to restore peace and security in the North East and other flash points in the country. Let us also remember in our prayers the security forces in the frontline in the continuing battle to rid our nation of terrorism and violence.

We must not forget the Internally Displaced Persons (IDPs) in our midst and those who have suffered untold hardship as a result of activities of insurgents and terrorists.
Our immediate priority is to alleviate the poverty of Nigerians by quickly stimulating the economy. I assure Nigerians that our government is doing its best to make life easier for all.
Let us therefore, renew our hope in the God-ordained unity, progress and prosperity of our great nation.
I wish all travellers safe movements and a memorable holiday as we celebrate with our family and friends.
MERRY CHRISTMAS!

MUHAMMADU BUHARI
President, Federal Republic of Nigeria
December 24, 2016.

WHILE YOU THINK HOW TO EMBEZZLE FUNDS...WE THINK HOW TO SUPPRESS TERRORISM~~NIGERIAN SOLDIER WRITES

 Chibuzor Ever ,a  soldier, wrote this piece describing the life and feeling of a Nigerian soldier.  Read below: Story of a Soldier

 It is not easy been a soldier!! We have cloth in our wardrobes but the nature of the job leaves no chance to wear them!! Patrol and escort both in the summer and winter dressing combatantly everyday like an astonaut while others are asleep we are awake... While you drink table water and beverages in your homes, we manage water in the jungle we do this just to suppress terrorism!!!

You lay on beds at night while we lay on tents and trench... While you think of how to embezzle funds we think of how to attack external forces!!! It is a work to God and humanity. You fucking scream when you are cut by blade we endure when we are hit by a bullet!!! When a soldier die, they dont take it as anything.... To them it is a normal thing!!! But when their wives have miscarriage the whole earth will hear their cry!!! May be you dont know we are also born from a woman. Ohh Lord! I pray that every person, people, community, organization or parastatal that whishes me and my fellow soldiers awful death.....dry thunder from heaven should strike them down.. Do i hear you say amen!